With so much “unlove” around I thought to myself, “Well, what is love really. Is love one thing? Is love a verb?” I decided to go to the dictionary and find a definition.
First, let’s look at love as a noun. Webster’s Dictionary defines love as (1) a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. (2) a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection as for a parent, child, or friend. [don’t forget, our pets are our best friends] I have to tell you, it is so very easy to love my grandson as well as my children, my husband, friends, and family. I am sure those reading this have those that are easy to love as well. Then we have those co-workers, family, neighbors, bosses, and others I am sure some of you can think of, that are not that easy to love. There are those that have wronged us in some way that we feel we will never love.
Those that are easy to love, well, what can I say? They are easy to love! We “love” being around them, we “love” doing things for them, we “love” being there for them, and on and on. We love to see smiles on their faces and hear their laughter.
Then, we have those that it takes a little more effort to love. Some complain about how “hard” their life is, some are negative about everything you talk about, they hardly ever smile, and I won’t name all I can think of. But, you know you need to love them because you have to be around them from time to time and only “love” would allow you to have the enthusiasm you need to show when you are with them. You try to encourage them about a problem they are having but to no avail most of the time. Yea, that’s kind of hard.
However, the next group is the hardest of all to love and we think we just cannot possibly ever forgive or love these people. Well, I am here to tell you that you do have the power to love them – not talking about the type of affectionate love or fondness type of love as above, but the type of valuing love for them just as a human being. Yep, God allowed them to be born and live so apparently He has put some kind of value on them so I’m thinking we might do well to do so also. Have you ever thought about the fact that if you hold a grudge or bitterness towards someone that you are allowing them to control you? I don’t think anyone likes to be controlled. They control our thoughts as we think about them, they control our emotions, and as they control our emotions, many times they control our actions. They control the countenance on our face, they keep us from smiling, and sometimes they cause us to snap and/or be hateful to those we do love.
Did ya ever think about all that? It took me many years to come to this conclusion about bitterness and “unloving” people. When you forgive and decide to “value love” people, it’s amazing how freeing that is. That darkness or heaviness that sometimes comes over us just floats away. They no longer control you and you find yourself thinking about them less and less and you come to a point that if you do think about them you can just throw that thought out the window with a smile on your face and springtime in your heart.
Of course, God also has quite a bit to say about love and says it much better than I do. He says “Love is kind…”, “through love serve one another..”, “for love is from God…”, “love casts out fear…”, “God so loved the world He gave his only begotten Son.”, “for love is from God..”, to name just a few.
Of course, all of this is just scratching the surface and you might want to dig a little deeper yourself. For me, the conclusion is that we need to ask ourselves a question which is “do we really love?” or do we need to work on it. Well, I don’t know about you but I think I probably need to work on it.